Practice What You Preach

Our values dictate our recommendations for our world. When you believe in or have an appreciation for something, you’re likely to share that with others. This sense of pride is associated with being an “adviser”. It is relatively smooth sailing to be an adviser and speak to those with confidence about whatever it is you want to share. In your mind, it can position you higher than your audience and provide this sense of wisdom. It brings great pleasure.

When the tables are turned and you are faced with the words you’ve spoken to your audience, do you follow or fumble? Being a role model of the values you’re trying to teach others is the most powerful way to spread the message, yet it is the most difficult to do.

Follow yourself. Practice what you preach.

 

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Kill It With Kindness

At the end of the day, why does it matter?

At the end of the day, what is most important to you and how have you expressed that?

At the end of the day, are you your best self? 

For me, it is the people in my life that are incredibly important. And sometimes heated emotions can take over and cause conflict in my head. My actions and words don’t always reflect what I am feeling deep inside. I want to be proactive, not reactive, because human nature isn’t always pretty or thruthful. If we feel we’ve been let down, misunderstood or treated unfairly, negative emotions may take control of us. But chances are, whatever or whoever was a part of those negative feelings, did not act with that intention. There is more to the story…

And at the end of the day, I want to make sure I am my best self. I want to kill them with kindness; show people my loving, positive character and those closest to me, just how much I appreciate them. 

Because at the end of the day, the trivial things don’t matter. Assumptions don’t matter. And living with a bad taste in your mouth isn’t going to help you or anyone around you.

Communicating with calmness and kindness, will always surface the truth, and your best self.

It is our narrative that determines who we will become ~Seth Godin

Ditch the Script

The amount of conversations I’ve been a part of has led me to value those who speak their own words. Who turn words into their own language and communicate in a way that is memorable, while meaningful.

The word “script” is a dirty word in my eyes and its purpose should vanish. There are so many ways to describe an object, person, place, or thing, so why do we want to tell the same story as the person before us just did? What strikes us to speak in a way already spoken?

Initiating a mundane conversation about the weather and using obvious words that describe the current situation, is a waste of your originality. Be bold. Think big. Be confident in your speech. Don’t be afraid to show character because this, is what people respond to best. Your use of words should be as original as your style, your thoughts and your imagination.

Make art with your words because we already have enough fluff to sort through.

Stripped Strengths

All of these days you’ve spent on earth have taught you many, many things. Things you’ve learned, witnessed, and developed. These things equate to education and experience, some tangible and some not. They have shaped you into the person you are today and the influence you have had on others and the planet.

All of these things you’ve achieved – education and experience – can never be taken away from you. No one can strip you of your strengths. Hold on to your power and stay true to yourself. Remind yourself of your strengths and keep working toward achieving more. Always learning; always growing. Never stagnant.

If someone doubts your strengths or influences you to question your own, they don’t deserve to have you in their life. Surround yourself with people who make you see the world differently, who push you to be a better person, who show you more beauty in the world than you thought existed, who support you, and who are so confident in themselves that they aren’t afraid to acknowledge your strengths, to you and others.

That is the most admirable strength – recognizing the strengths in yourself, and others.

That to me, is sexy.

 

Openness


Let go of the shackles. Unrestrict your mind. Be free of chaos. Speak with your heart. Act with integrity. 

Because when your heart is open and honest, the answers you were looking for come directly to you. You start to drive on a smooth street instead of a bumpy back road. And quickly realize that you needed little force to receive what you need. The answers come organically. And with that, comes fulfilling action.

Don’t hold back – because the more you keep instead, the bumpier the road will be.

Openness.

Differences

From one of the most insightful authors, Seth Godin’s blog post “Differences” is one that stands out from the rest. It resonates with me because I find his message reflective in myself and others. Becoming aware of the similarities, not differences, you have in other people is the first step to empathizing with them, and ultimately leads to a non-judgmental environment. This is what I am working on…

Check it:

If you’re sharing a cab to the airport with a stranger, what happens if he’s two inches taller than you? Probably nothing. There’s nothing to distract, or to cause discomfort. You make small talk.

What if he’s a little shorter than you? Or left handed?

Perhaps he’s not from your town, but from Depew, about twenty miles away. Probably nothing to consider…

What if he has shoulder-length red hair?

At some point, most people reach a moment of discomfort. What if he’s 7 feet tall? Will you mention it? Or if he’s under four feet? What if he’s from a different country? Or a different race or speaking with a significant accent (or, more accurately, an accent that’s different from yours)?

For as long as we’ve been keeping records, human beings have been on alert for the differences that divide us. Then we fixate on those differences, amplifying them, ascribing all sorts of irrelevant behaviors to them. Until, the next thing you know, we start referring to, “those people.”

It seems as though it’s a lot more productive to look for something in common. Attitudes and expectations. Beliefs in the common good and forward motion. A desire to make something that matters…

~Seth Godin